Have you ever set a goal—only to find yourself procrastinating, doubting, or talking yourself out of it entirely? Do you notice patterns in your life where relationships, careers, or personal progress fall apart just as they begin to flourish?
That’s not coincidence.
That’s self-sabotage.
And for many of us, it’s the invisible force quietly driving the most frustrating patterns in our lives.
What Is Self-Sabotage?
Self-sabotage happens when your thoughts or behaviours actively work against your goals. Often, it’s not intentional, it stems from internal fears, unconscious conditioning, or emotional wounds.
It may show up as:
- Procrastination
- Perfectionism
- Avoiding decisions
- Overcommitting to others
- Negative self-talk or imposter syndrome
These are all forms of protection your mind has built—often as a response to pain or trauma—and they are deeply tied to what’s called the shadow self.
Discovering Your Saboteurs
The first step to changing any pattern is awareness. To uncover your personal self-sabotaging habits, take this free, science-backed Saboteur Assessment from Positive Intelligence:
This powerful quiz reveals your dominant internal saboteurs, such as the Judge, the Avoider, or the Pleaser. These archetypes act as internal voices that keep you stuck, afraid, or in constant stress.
What Is Shadow Work?
Shadow work is the practice of exploring and integrating the parts of ourselves we’ve hidden, rejected, or buried, often unconsciously.
This may include:
- Old beliefs like “I’m not good enough”
- Emotional wounds from childhood
- Traits you were told were unacceptable
- Fears around success, failure, or vulnerability
Rather than ignoring these parts of ourselves, shadow work invites them into the light so that healing and transformation can begin.
What Does Shadow Work Look Like?
Shadow work is not about reliving your trauma, it’s about acknowledging the internal beliefs driving your life so you can finally shift them.
When you work with me, you will:
- Create a safe space for reflection and personal truth
- Identify subconscious blocks and where they stem from
- Learn to recognize patterns and triggers as messengers, not enemies
- Reframe limiting beliefs into empowering ones
This process helps you reclaim the parts of yourself you had to push away in order to survive, so you can now thrive.
Who Benefits From Shadow Work?
Shadow work can be life-changing for anyone who:
- Feels stuck or overwhelmed by repeating patterns
- Struggles with self-worth, anxiety, or emotional fatigue
- Wants to grow personally or spiritually but keeps hitting walls
- Feels like there’s “more” to their life but can’t quite access it
If you’ve ever asked, “Why do I keep doing this to myself?” shadow work holds the answer.
The Benefits of Shadow Work
- Increased self-awareness and clarity
- Greater emotional resilience
- Improved relationships and boundaries
- A deeper connection to your purpose
- Confidence and self-trust
- Freedom from self-defeating cycles
Client Testimonial
“I recently had a session with Kelli, and it was truly transformative. I came in feeling overwhelmed by doubt and anxiety, but Kelli’s intuitive ability to tap into my energy and provide spot-on guidance brought me the clarity I desperately needed. During the session, I felt major blocks being released, leaving me with a renewed sense of confidence and purpose. Her compassionate and insightful approach created the perfect space for healing and transformation.”
Introducing: Kelli’s Shadow Work Program
If you’re ready to stop repeating the same painful cycles and start living with clarity, confidence, and self-trust, I invite you to explore my signature program:
This transformative program guides you through a step-by-step shadow work journey using intuitive insight, deep reflection, and actionable guidance. You’ll uncover what’s been keeping you stuck, shift your internal beliefs, and start showing up in your life from a place of alignment and authenticity.
What’s Inside the Program
- Structured lessons to help you explore your inner landscape
- Tools for identifying and integrating your shadow self
- Exercises to help break self-sabotaging cycles
- Support to move through your emotions with compassion, not judgment
This is not just about temporary motivation—it’s about creating deep, sustainable healing.
Your Next Steps
- Take the Saboteur Assessment to better understand the patterns playing out in your life:
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If you’re ready to get unstuck, I’m here to walk with you every step of the way.
— Kelli
Author Profile
- Kelli Brown is a Certified Hypnotherapist (RTT), Past Life Regressionist (QHHT), and Reiki Master Level 3 dedicated to holistic healing. With over a decade of experience, she helps clients break free from limiting beliefs, overcome illness, and align mind, body, and spirit. Awarded Best Hypnotherapy Practice 2024.
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